Dating Christian believers should and must be the only kind of people you should date when looking for a mate for life. Going out with unbelievers in a romantic sense is only asking for trouble.
Why do I say this? Because being a Christian single out there in a lost world makes you stick out like a sore thumb among unbelieving people who will mock and laugh at your spiritual standards and ways of thinking, especially when it comes to relationships.
You must not let this deter you; however, because this type of behavior from the unbelieving crowd is to be expected, even if it is a bit tough to handle.
This statement may seem like I am being harsh, but in many ways it is the truth for the dating Christian single. Whenever you go against the ways of the world and its system, you will suffer some sort of persecution, regardless of how spiritual your character is or how strong your standards are.
As a young dating Christian single in high school and college, I recall many occasions of emotional, verbal abuse, and all-out mockery from classmates and dorm mates, who couldn't quite understand why I wouldn't go out on blind dates they set up for me; or, those who bullied and pushed me around if I didn't join in on their drug and alcohol fests in attempts to include me within their social parties or dating circles.
Of course I was called all sorts of defaming names, but their favorite one for me was, "Little Miss Goody-Two Shoes". I suppose if I had to choose among the most horrible names given me, this one would be it. However, those years were very difficult and emotionally upsetting for me because I thought I had to fit in somehow by dating undesirable men at the time. I knew in my heart that going out with unbelievers was not what God had intended for my life, and that I'd be in trouble if I continued to do so. These were very trying times, but important learning years of early single life.
You see, it's not just the dating scene that may bring on persecution from others, but it happens with everything in life that may go against what the world has to offer, and all its evil ways.
It does not matter whether you are going out with people you have met over the internet, or from the workplace, or at church; The fact is that, from time to time, you will meet up with various individuals who may test your faith or bring you down in your spiritual life.
If you are a dating Christian who is being attacked on a daily basis in some form or fashion for your standards/beliefs, it will only get worse because it is not just you as a person being persecuted against, but it is all about WHO you stand for: Jesus Christ!
Here's what the Bible has to say regarding this subject:
When you determine in your heart and soul that you will only date true believers and forget all the rest, then you'll become settled within that belief, experiencing peace of mind in your decision to do so.
Sure, it can get very lonely, frustrating, and depressing at times, especially when you see your other friends, co-workers, and acquaintances out there in the dating world, seemingly having fun doing their own thing and all; but you are different. God has called you for His purpose, in which you must obey.
Your courage to overcome all the naysayers and those who hate on you will come with continual prayer and study of God's Word; leaning and trusting in Him for your spiritual guidance and direction for your life, and in that of looking for a mate in the right way.
Life as a dating Christian requires that you have courage, which comes as you build your spiritual foundation and trust in the Lord. Consider these passages of scripture that will inspire your heart as you search for the right individuals to date:
So, take heart my dating Christian friend. God will honor and bless you all the more as you look to Him for your future soul mate in life. He knows what you need and want, and has that perfect guy or girl lined up for you already.
Just think; before the foundation of the world came into being, God already knew exactly who He would match you up with and under what circumstances. But He will allow that certain person to appear in your path only in His perfect place and timing.
Isn't it wonderful to know that we Christians have the one true perfect and most divine Matchmaker of them all: our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ?!! Remember that, " In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths." (Proverbs 3:6)
Line up your life according to God's Word, and you won't go wrong, not as a dating Christian, or even as someone who has lived long in the Lord already, who may be nearing the end of his/her life. Honor the Lord in all that you do, thanking and giving praises to the Father, for all the new blessings that are yet still to come.