dating christian believers

Dating Christian believers should and must be the only kind of people you should date when looking for a mate for life. Going out with unbelievers in a romantic sense is only asking for trouble.

Why do I say this? Because being a Christian single out there in a lost world makes you stick out like a sore thumb among unbelieving people who will mock and laugh at your spiritual standards and ways of thinking, especially when it comes to relationships.

You must not let this deter you; however, because this type of behavior from the unbelieving crowd is to be expected, even if it is a bit tough to handle. 


the dating christian will have persecution

This statement may seem like I am being harsh, but in many ways it is the truth for the dating Christian single. Whenever you go against the ways of the world and its system, you will suffer some sort of persecution, regardless of how spiritual your character is or how strong your standards are.

As a young dating Christian single in high school and college, I recall many occasions of emotional, verbal abuse, and all-out mockery from classmates and dorm mates, who couldn't quite understand why I wouldn't go out on blind dates they set up for me; or, those who bullied and pushed me around if I didn't join in on their drug and alcohol fests in attempts to include me within their social parties or dating circles.

Of course I was called all sorts of defaming names, but their favorite one for me was, "Little Miss Goody-Two Shoes". I suppose if I had to choose among the most horrible names given me, this one would be it. However, those years were very difficult and emotionally upsetting for me because I thought I had to fit in somehow by dating undesirable men at the time. I knew in my heart that going out with unbelievers was not what God had intended for my life, and that I'd be in trouble if I continued to do so. These were very trying times, but important learning years of early single life.

You see, it's not just the dating scene that may bring on persecution from others, but it happens with everything in life that may go against what the world has to offer, and all its evil ways.

It does not matter whether you are going out with people you have met over the internet, or from the workplace, or at church; The fact is that, from time to time, you will meet up with various individuals who may test your faith or bring you down in your spiritual life.

If you are a dating Christian who is being attacked on a daily basis in some form or fashion for your standards/beliefs, it will only get worse because it is not just you as a person being persecuted against, but it is all about WHO you stand for: Jesus Christ!

Here's what the Bible has to say regarding this subject:

  • 1 Peter 3:16 tells us, "Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ."
  • John 15:18 reminds us, "If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you."
  • 1 Peter 4:16 says, "Yet if any man suffer as a Christian, let him not be ashamed; but let him glorify God on this behalf."
  • John 15:19 says, "If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you."

take courage, dating christian!

When you determine in your heart and soul that you will only date true believers and forget all the rest, then you'll become settled within that belief, experiencing peace of mind in your decision to do so.

Sure, it can get very lonely, frustrating, and depressing at times, especially when you see your other friends, co-workers, and acquaintances out there in the dating world, seemingly having fun doing their own thing and all; but you are different. God has called you for His purpose, in which you must obey.

Your courage to overcome all the naysayers and those who hate on you will come with continual prayer and study of God's Word; leaning and trusting in Him for your spiritual guidance and direction for your life, and in that of looking for a mate in the right way. 

Life as a dating Christian requires that you have courage, which comes as you build your spiritual foundation and trust in the Lord. Consider these passages of scripture that will inspire your heart as you search for the right individuals to date:

  • Joshua 1:9 says, "Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest."
  • Deuteronomy 31:6 reminds us, "Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the Lord thy God, He it is that doth go with thee; He will not fail thee, nor forsake thee."
  • Psalms 27:14 says, "Wait on the Lord: Be of good courage, and He shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord."
  • Isaiah 40:31 says, "But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint."
  • Psalms 37:4 says, "Delight thyself also in the Lord: and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart."
  • Psalms 130:5 says, "I wait for the Lord, my soul doth wait, and in His word do I hope." Lastly,
  • Proverbs 16:1-3 tells us, "The preparations of the heart in man, and the answer of the tongue, is from the Lord. All the ways of a man are clean in his own eyes; but the Lord weigheth the spirits. Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established."

So, take heart my dating Christian friend. God will honor and bless you all the more as you look to Him for your future soul mate in life. He knows what you need and want, and has that perfect guy or girl lined up for you already.

Just think; before the foundation of the world came into being, God already knew exactly who He would match you up with and under what circumstances. But He will allow that certain person to appear in your path only in His perfect place and timing.

Isn't it wonderful to know that we Christians have the one true perfect and most divine Matchmaker of them all: our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ?!! Remember that, " In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths." (Proverbs 3:6

Line up your life according to God's Word, and you won't go wrong, not as a dating Christian, or even as someone who has lived long in the Lord already, who may be nearing the end of his/her life. Honor the Lord in all that you do, thanking and giving praises to the Father, for all the new blessings that are yet still to come.


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