Love marriage; don't frown on it! God created this wonderful and unique institution which was meant to be pleasing to you, and honor Him as well.
I feel that this day in time many of our young people do not place as much emphasis or importance on marriage as they once did in years past. Why do I say this? Well, it's so obvious. Many people in our society, young and old, are shacking up, living together outside the boundaries of marriage, instead of actually tying the knot, which of course is a complete sin against God! Read it in Hebrews 13:4 and 1 Corinthians 6:18-20.
You may know of people, or perhaps you find yourself in the same situation, who have decidedly given up on the thought of ever getting married. Perhaps it is due to having parents whose own marriage fell apart, or feeling unattractive towards the opposite sex, or having no time to pursue a mate, or maybe you just can't be bothered in looking around, but prefer that "special someone" to come looking for you.
We each may have found ourselves in these situations or circumstances before, but should not deter us any further. Negative feelings and emotions about love marriage can be challenged, if only one is willing to do so.
Back in historical times of the 1800's in the Victorian Era, the role of the single lady was to do anything and everything to catch a male suitor. Much of her concentration would be that of attracting a man with her feminine ways in hopes that he would marry her. Women did not really work outside the home; nor were they very educated; nor could they own property; so the only way they saw to have a decent life and not be left out in the cold, or have some other man in the family to take care of them, was to marry well (someone who had a prominent state in life and business, or who owned property).
According to the article, "Courting The Victorian Woman", by Michelle J. Hoppe, from www.literary-liaisons.com, "Courtship was considered more a career move than a romantic interlude for young men, as all of a woman's property reverted to him upon marriage. Therefore, courting was taken very seriously--by both sides. Men and women were careful not to lead the other on unnecessarily." Wow! What a far cry that is from today's standards!
You may turn your nose up to the concept of love marriage. I have heard many say that marriage only benefits the man, but indeed, it benefits the woman as well. Consider some of these advantages of having wedded bliss:
Are you familiar with this song by Frank Sinatra? It has a lot of meaning within its lyrics. My sisters and I used to sing this cute little tune when we were kids as we each shared our dreams of getting married one day. You may want to think on the value and meaning of these words as well. It's entitled, "LOVE AND MARRIAGE". Here's how it goes:
" Love and marriage, love and marriage; Go together like a horse and carriage. This I tell you brother; You can't have one without the other. Love and marriage, love and marriage; It's an institute you can't disparage. Ask the local gentry; And they will say it's elementary. Try, try, try to separate them; It's an illusion. Try, try, try, and you will only come; To this conclusion: Love and marriage, love and marriage; Go together like a horse and carriage; Dad was told by Mother; You can't have one, you can't have none; You can't have one without the other. Try, try, try to separate them; It's an illusion. Try, try, try and you will only come; To this conclusion: Love and marriage, love and marriage; Go together like a horse and carriage. Dad was told by Mother; You can't have one (You can't have none); You can't have one without the other!" (Songwriters: James Van Heusen, Sammy Cahn; Warner/ Chappell Music Inc., IMAGEM MUSIC INC.; Data from LyricFind)
Unfortunately you will find those who have gotten married, had children, and have lived their lives together in a loveless marriage. This is truly sad because without love life is just harder on all ends. Having love for each other is so necessary in raising children and to sustain them throughout various crises and difficult times within their marriage. Remember love marriage: two words that simply must go together.
God demonstrated His great and wondrous love when He sent the Saviour down to save us on this earth. Look at John 3:16-17, where it says, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not His Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through Him might be saved." His example proves that love comes with sacrifice and devotion. This type of love is what is needed in our marriages today.
Love marriage within your own spousal relationship because in doing so, you also show your children the true meaning and value of married life and what part that love will play in it as the years go by.
I love to see elderly married couples, helping each other lovingly walk down the street together, hand in hand. That sight just blesses my heart so much and makes me feel there is hope for future marriages yet! They act so tenderly towards one another.
Here are a few passages of Scripture that speak on the love marriage relationship, and what it should look like. If you are married, do these verses ring true for you?
Finally, pose these questions to yourself, especially if you are married, "Do I have a love marriage relationship with my husband/wife"? Am I and my spouse doing everything we can to show each other this kind of deep, abiding love? Do our children or other members of the family see this in our marriage?
Look to the Saviour as your true example for love--for life. If things need to improve in your marriage, ask the Lord for His guidance in revealing to you the answers of these questions and more from His Word.
Psalms 119:103-105 says, "How sweet are Thy words unto my taste! Yea, sweeter than honey to my mouth! Through Thy precepts I get understanding: therefore, I hate every false way. Thy Word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path." May the Lord bless you and your spouse as you both continue to love marriage.